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Diary of a pole dancer


Week 1

Level of coordination: plummeted to new lows
Bruises: 4
Blushes: 1 (the only time I nailed a move)

It has to be said that pole fitness is way harder than it looks. I’ve just come back from my first ever class, at Pole Rocks in Reigate, and already everything hurts. Yup, everything. Shoulders. Arms. Shins. Bum. Tummy. Especially tummy. Tomorrow I won’t be able to lift my arms above shoulder level. And yet, I will without doubt be back next week, because I feel freakin’ good.

I’ve been hearing a lot about pole fitness recently. It might even be the new Zumba. It helps you develop strength, agility, balance and body control. And apparently it’ll make you feel light, vigorous and full of strength. Bring it on!

So, a couple of things you should know about pole. Firstly, it’s not just for girls. Men do pole too, and there are several  guys in the classes at Pole Rocks. In fact two of the instructors are men. And they’re bloody good at getting around the pole.


Secondly, you really should remember to *ahem* wax those underarms, because you’ll be down to that vest top in no time. Pole is hard work.

Thirdly, even the basic moves are quite tricky. But when you get it right it feels marvellous. Especially when the instructor applauds, and it makes you blush.

Fourthly, I was probably the oldest in the class by, um, a decade or so. Oh, alright, maybe it was two. But nobody seemed to notice. Or care.

Righty ho… I’m off to find a pole. I’ve got only six days to practise before my next class.


Week 2

Level of coordination: slightly improved
Bruises: Two, plus a sore muscle in my tummy that keeps niggling
Blushes: None

Right, second week back and my coordination seems to have somehow improved. I can actually get around the pole, and I don’t look like a total numpty. (So I say anyway!)

I’ve been doing basic spins. And I seem to be getting the hang of it. This is great exercise, and really fun. Also, this week I’ve noticed that perhaps I’m not quite the granny in the class – not all the polers are twenty-somethings. It’s hardly surprising, though, because as exercise goes this is a lot of fun.

But enough about me. Let me tell you a bit about Pole Rocks. The studio offers lessons in Reigate, Dorking, Leatherhead and Coulsdon. I’ve been going to the Reigate classes, which are held in the dance studio at Reigate College. There are eight poles, and mostly you’ll have a pole to yourself.

Sam Causon, owner of Pole Rocks, heads up the class with a band of helpers, so there’s one instructor for about every three poles. Sam took up pole when an injury forced her to stop running and cycling. She’d hoped to get some strength and confidence back. And let me tell you, she’s certainly done that. She says her body gained more tone and shape after four months of pole, than three years of going to the gym. It’s easy to see Sam is passionate about pole, and aside from being pretty nifty when she gets on the pole herself, she’s great at motivating and inspiring the class.

I wanna climb a pole too. Not this week maybe. But eventually!


Week 3

Level of coordination: I’ve transitioned
Bruises: None this week, but that muscle in my tummy is niggling
Blushes: Two (once when I messed up, once when I got something right and I got a cheer.)

I’m raring to go. Hell, I even considered getting my shorty shorts out for this class. Then I thought, “Nah, don’t be silly Amber, you’re not quite ready for that!” And I came back to earth with a thud. It was quite a thud too, because that niggling injury I’ve been harbouring was made worse this week when I was out running and I slipped over. It seems my lack of grace knows no bounds.

But I’m not letting it stop me. So here I am. And while we’re on the subject of attire, you might be wondering what one wears to a pole fitness class. I know what you’re thinking. Does she wear her stilettos? So let me tell you that I leave my stilettos at the door. This class is less about being sexy, more about being fit. Students wear anything from normal gym kit, to itty bitty shorts and bra tops. Those further up the chain of experience tend to be the more scantily clad, and that’s because you need skin contact with the pole to give you traction. At least that’s what I’m told. I’m yet to get up there.


Sam starts every class with a warm-up, and ends with a core muscle workout (think sit-ups and ‘the plank’) and a cool down with stretches. My muscles still ache at the end of each class, but in a good way. And I’ve found it’s not the day after a pole class that I feel it most, but the day after the day after, if you know what I mean.

This week I’m still not climbing the pole, but the lovely, lithe and incredibly leggy Paris, did teach me some transitions. That’s where you put two moves together. So, peeps, I’m improving at this pole business. However slowly that may be. And while I’ve now got to take a a couple of weeks off due to work commitments (I have theatre shows to review for you peeps), you can be certain of one thing. I’ll be back. And you know what else, I will climb that pole! One day.

Pole Rocks Pole Studios, Reigate, Dorking, Leatherhead and Coulsdon. For class timetables click here.
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8 comments on “Diary of a pole dancer”

  • Lorraine April 12, 2016

    That was fantastic..pole needs positive postings like this especially to get it thru to people that you don’t have to be a certain age/size/weight. Have been saying it forever!

    • amberevans April 13, 2016

      Lorraine, if I can do pole, anyone can!

  • Sam Causon April 12, 2016

    Thank you So much Amber for the diary of your lessons! I think it gives a real insight to people as everyone comes with the same worries and you certainly put what everyone’s thinking and wanting to know the answers to.
    Really well written ?
    It was a pleasure having you in the classes, even if it was for a short period. But you would be welcome back anytime if you want to learn how to climb and become a pole master!xx

    • amberevans April 13, 2016

      Thanks Sam. I quite fancy becoming pole master… though still a little way to go!!

  • Jane April 12, 2016

    What an excellent blog and it explains exactly how pole makes you feel. Before I came to pole lessons I had zero confidence in my body and its ability to do anything and now pole has given me so much belief that anything is possible when you put the effort in and like Amber explains it doesn’t matter what size, shape or age you are!!

    • amberevans April 13, 2016

      Like I’ve said Jane, if I can do it – anyone can!!

  • Sheila causon May 7, 2016

    I think samantha causon deserves to win this award . Sam has worked very hard at building Pole Rocks Business and is very passionate loves every minute of teaching ,the popularity of Pole Rocks has grown over the past few years , it not only gives confidance and strength to all who join her classes both men and women eveyone has great fun looking forward to going each week newly made friends , Sam is a great motivator organises team events regularly from mud runs ,charity events and much more .

  • K D Grace April 12, 2018

    Well done, Amber! Speaking as the oldest person poling in Guildford Pole Rocks. I’ve been at it for ten months and can’t believe the amazing changes in my body, and in my ability. I’m loving every minute of it, and I especially love hearing other people’s stories of their experiences. Thank you so much for sharing yours.


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